Here are some things that almost always make me feel good in interaction:

    1. Touching
    2. Talking about/sharing small experiences and feelings and fantasies and wishes
    3. Talking about my teaching, writing, professional goals, etc.
    4. Eating meals together
    5. Planning good times
    6. Being called on the telephone
    7. Helping/being helped
    8. Being smiled at
    9. Sharing information about general schedules and plans
    10. Working together on some task or project
    11. Having someone's complete attention, for a moment or more, and giving them mine
    12. Dancing and listening to music together
    13. Being told if something I say or do makes someone feel good